nothing to say
October 7, 2006 by thinking girl
I feel like I don’t have anything to say lately. I open my mouth to speak, or position my fingers over the keyboard to type, and I come up with nothing. I guess I do tend to get a bit reclusive this time of year, but this seems unusual. I always have SOMETHING to say! I’m not returning emails, I’m not returning phone calls, I even stayed home from work the other day. What’s worse, I don’t have anything to say acedemically either, and I have two research paper proposals due within the next two weeks. I don’t know what to write about for either class, I don’t want to go to the library and do any research, and I feel like all my assignments suck lately.
I think I have the malaise. All I want to do is sit on the couch with a tub of Cherry Garcia and watch What Not To Wear.
Any suggestions for how to snap out of this funk?
I recognize the symptoms. If you do, indeed, have this disease, it’s important not to let it go untreated.
Output: High, often for an extended period of time
Input: Low, inadequate, or non-existent
Result: A malnourished /neglected /starving ‘inner child’
Prescription: Input
Delivery Vehicle Options, Preferred: Someone to remind you that your feelings are important; a delicious meal preferably prepared by someone else; a reminder that work and learning are in service to life and not vice versa; fun; physically venting anger and frustration somehow.
Delivery Vehicle Option If Preferred Vehicles Not Readily Available In Sufficient Dosage: Curl up on couch with Cherry Garcia and watch What Not To Wear.
Uh, I hope that wasn’t too sappy. This nonsense was kind of fun (if you haven’t seen it already; it’s been around a while). You could always rent Kissing Jessica Stein if you haven’t seen that (funny and poignant).
ah, thanks ballgame! Not sappy at all. And that link was hilarious! thanks a million!
Hmmm. Sounds like you are getting rest. Nothing wrong with a little rest. Or, do you do yoga. Works a treat for me, as long as the teacher doesn’t talk too much.
Happy funking (shit, you may as well enjoy it!)
from B above: Someone to remind you that your feelings are important; a delicious meal preferably prepared by someone else; a reminder that work and learning are in service to life and not vice versa; fun; physically venting anger and frustration somehow.
Very good advice. It’s just finding the someone, innit?
Ha, I hear ya. I’m in the same boat. Seconding ballgame’s advice!
You definitely have a seriously malaise. It’s called being a human being. No cure.
Who says we are only well when we are in production mode?
hey, do whatever you gotta do to feel good. it’s not selfish, it’s taking care of yourself so you can function properly - that was a super hard lesson for me to learn. but that said, usually doing something (that is, something that you really like, and not to necessarily be what they call “productive” but to feel better) is way more effective than not doing anything - doing nothing tends to make these things worse.
still, in the words of le tigre (i must admit it took me a while to feel comfortable with what this song - called “much finer” - was saying, hehe):
My mind’s on rewind
And quicksand
(What?)
I was up all night doing nothing
(Last night? Again?)
Do you wanna stay in bed all day?
(Yeah!)
Do remember feeling any other way?
(No!)
Do you wanna stay in bed all day?
(Yeah!)
Do remember feeling any other way?
(No!)
I musta been sleeping when you called
I’m not feeling well at all
Got this thing that’s been going around called
Please pretend that I’m outta town
(OKAY?)
Do you wanna stay in bed all day?
(Yeah!)
Do remember feeling any other way?
(No!)
Do you wanna stay in bed all day?
(Yeah!)
Do remember feeling any other way?
(No!)
I’ll make some coffee
Put on some eyeliner
I think I’ll find that things are fine
and they’re gonna get much finer!
Do you wanna stay in bed all day?
(Yeah!)
Do remember feeling any other way?
(No!)
Do you wanna stay in bed all day?
(Yeah!)
Do remember feeling any other way?
(No!)
Hey look I’m really sorry
I couldn’t make it to your party
I know it looks like I’m gonna cry
Got a to-do list behind my eyes so
Go tell your friends I’m still a feminist
But I won’t be coming to your benefit
I give up
I give up
I give up
I give up
I give up
I’ll be at home today.
I get that way once in awhile. Lately I’ve been blogging like I watch t.V. sometimes.flipping through the channels with out stopping long on anything, bored & restless. Even my own posts seem stale & redundant (if I try to be serious, anyway).
Interesting subject over at Mr. Preguntos, though. Just what I needed.
It is not really a ‘malaise’. It is the ‘fatigue’. You need a break. I think you need a good break, a nice countryside air or a mountain air or a sea air and a good food and lots of sleep would be a good solution…but this is not summer holidays, neither xmas holidays…what to do ? ….you know the answer yourself..
whatever you do, or whatever you don’t do, don’t forget to eat ice-cream, to listen to music and to sleep *smile*
Here in Honduras they have a name for those days where the pace is slow and not a lot gets done. It’s called Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday.
Asà es la vida.
thanks everyone. I do feel a bit better after the past couple of days of eating ice cream and working out (Including yoga, D!), and resting, sleeping whenever I want, listening to Paul Simon, baking punpkin pie. I embraced the malaise, and I feel much better for it.
Matthew, it sounds like we’re continuing that conversation of last week, where you extol the virtues of Honduras to convince me to visit! I must say, it’s working!
I just like to read and work on my comp when I get that way. Nothing productive, just re-doing websites and organizing my files…
But sometimes you just need something to get you going again. Like ice cream,
I think fall weather brings on this type of feelings.
Ack…writer’s block, there’s nothing worse - even for us bloggers…
Struggling to maintain the flow with the current “Dave” trilogy in 5 parts on my blog too. Best cure for writer’s block seems to be to keep doing it until something sticks…
Good luck.
Peej
Go out and look at some clouds.
Seriously. They’re really pretty.
I hear ya sister. Same thing has been happening to me lately. I can be in the shower and think of all these great ideas, things I want to say on my blog and then as soon as I get to the keyboard it’s like my brain just……
crap. it’s happening right now.
thanks guys. I’m maybe coming back from the funk. Today I sucessfully defended postmodernism against complaints that it lacks prescriptive power in terms of transformative social movements because it deconstructs identity and discourse/language and universal “truth” and focuses on the individual. Yay!
… japanese say that silence is golden.
Take your time sister, take your time!
Everbody faces the same situtation every now and then..perhaps you need to attend the classes regularly and interact with your friends who are industriously involved in completing there research paper. Just get out of your abode and go for some hang outs…..These tips has helped in my case ..Hope it works for you too..
You should go to Corsica, relax a bit by the beach, stroll around little high-perched villages, practice your French.
(Sorry, I couldn’t resist.)
I’m slowly coming around. I promise I won’t stay withdrawn forever. maybe just a little short while longer.
I jsut need to take my time, like FreeSlave says. But knowing that you all care and can relate makes me feel better.
The other day, what helped was going swimming. I felt so light and free, floating away in that beautiful chlorine filled water, plunging my head under, looking around from underneath. I think I might need a noseplug. it was very peaceful and relaxing, and good exercise too!
And in positive news, I found something to say over at L>T’s this morning, so that’s a good sign that my voice is coming back.
Welcome to Pensavito, Moodkitty, Craig, and Peej.
Keep checking back, I’ll be around again shortly, with renewed fire, I hope!
peace,
TG
take your time …
the water sounds perfecto.
we have lots of brilliant fresh and sea water swimming options here in our town, but there isn’t an indoor public swimming pool. thismorning I remarked to my handsome man, “Shit, I’m dying for that indoor pool to be built … I NEEEEED it, so bad!”.
keep processing in your own way; body work helps doesn’t it?
peace to you.
Cheer up Hon, things could be worse.
Are you using Internet Explorer? If so you might think of trying Foxfire. Or reinstalling Explorer as it degrades in time. At Lusty Tarts site try a refresh to get the latest page, the easiest way to do that is to hit the F5 key.
My first visit to your blog, nice. Hang in there hon.
I hope you’re starting to feel better, TG! xxx
D: yes moving the body does help! can’t neglect the body for the mind all the time…
Billy B: thanks. Yes, I’m using Firefox. I’ll try the refresh, that might help. Nice to see you here.
pragya: thanks, I’m coming along. we Cancers like to crawl inside our shells every now and then. maybe that’s all.
oh, and Marc Andre - tell me about Corsica! email me some pictures!
still got nothing to say ?
BTW: I still love you, gurl!
you are linked in my blog
Being in Whatever you are feeling is important. I don’t think that any of us can know or say what your inner core needs and feelings are.
Is there “garbage” that you need to let go of?
Is there hurt that you’ve not been aware of?
Do you have unmet needs that you aren’t taking care of?
Is it situational, time based (time of year), or reflective of something deep within you or a combination of these or other things?
Do you have grieving you’ve not done for yourself?
These are only a few vague types of areas you may want to explore over time within yourself. It seems likely that there are lessons to be learned and growth to get from the morass or whatever it is.
Methinks that you need within you something or somethings, but what they may be may not be obvious to you.
Being sad or down isn’t easy, but IF it doesn’t fly out-of-control it can help you.
Knowing that others care about you - may lift your spirits some, but underneath it all - it’s you - inside you.
Good Luck!
…do you know anything about ‘feminist spatial theory’?
(just wondering …
Hi guys,
prash - thanks for the link-up! I’ll be back on the blog next week, I think.
freeslave - aw, thanks! I still haven’t checked out your vid, but soon, my friend, soon, and I’ll be back to you.
geo - as always, a thought provoking comment from you. I’m glad you wandered into my sphere, you are one very wise person. thanks for the words, I’ll reflect carefully.
daniela - no, I don’t know anything about that. I did a quick google on it, and up popped a bunch of stuff that didn’t seem all that linked. Some was stuff about cybernetics and technology and a need to move beyond the borders of bodies, by authors like Haraway. Does that help? What do you know about it? Can you enlighten me?