so, I went to see Georgia Rule the other night. I gotta tell you, it was not at all what I was expecting. From the previews, you kind of get the impression that it’s about this family of three kind of difficult women who have complex relationships with one another (this is true), and that in the end everyone might just get along after all (also true). However, it’s what came in the middle that really surprised me.
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this movie is heavy. it’s about incest. it’s about alcoholism. it’s about loss, and finding the best way you can to get through it. Lindsay Lohan’s character was raped by her step-father from the age of 12 to the age of 14. Her mother, Felicity Huffman, didn’t know. LL dealt with it by becoming rebellious, doing everything she could to get away from them, drive them away, piss them off. And it ended up screwing her up, as often that kind of behaviour does. LL tells someone, who tells Jane Fonda, her grandmother, who calls FH, who doesn’t believe it. There remains some tension in the movie as to whether LL is telling the truth about the abuse, tension that sticks around until she confronts the stepfather and they discuss what happened.
I thought the movie was realistic. For a while, I was pissed because I thought that it was going to turn out that LL had lied about the incest, but it didn’t turn out that way (thank god). But yes, it was realistic. From what I’ve read, there are a lot of women who believe their husbands over their children in cases of alleged incest. Incest is also a reason why children act out, so sometimes what can happen is that when a child tells a parent about incest or abuse, the parent thinks the child is lying because of prior acting out. It becomes a vicious cycle. The thing that stuck with me was when the stepfather said, “do you think I would lie about this?” – obvious to me, that of course he would. Of course he would deny it, of course he would lie about it, to cover his ass, to keep his happy little status quo.
From what I have read, false accusations of incestuous molestation and rape are extremely low. I cannot imagine the heartache it would cause to find out that your child had been molested or raped, but I simply cannot fathom choosing a person who had raped your own/their own child/grandchild/niece/nephew/sister/brother over that child. I am horrified by and yet strangely pity these people who defend incestuous molestors/rapists.
Is this too easy for me to say? What circumstances would warrant such a defense? I simply can’t think of any, other than psychological abuse or trauma. meaning, I can only understand defending an incestuous molestor/rapist if you weren’t in your right mind or if you were scared for your life and/or that of your child.
has anyone else seen this movie? any comments on this issue? I can’t think what else to say about it, but the movie certainly stirred up some discomfort and discussion in my mind.